There are many ways to do this. Sometimes it’s just a matter of listening. Being really present and listening carefully to someone can be the best gift we can ever give them.
We can honor them by seeing them as whole just the way they are. Sometimes that’s difficult, especially when they don’t see themselves that way. What an amazing gift it is to reflect something different! It’s a matter of holding in mind a thought there is always a reason for why people do and say what they do. Give them the same leniency you might give yourself, knowing your reasons. Knowing that they are just where they need to be.
Honoring another means remaining centered in love. Seeing them as another unfolding, awakening soul. After all, we are made of the same stuff. You might even say we are one.
Another way we can honor others is by acknowledging their gifts and offering praise for them. I believe there was a generation who believed people (children, in particular) would get a big ego if they heard too much praise. I don’t believe that. People with big egos, who’s britches are too big for them, are usually not sure at all how wonderful they are.
I love that as you give others the gift of listening to what they have to say, you can also give yourself a gift. There is something to learn from every encounter with others. You might pick up some good ideas, advise or suggestions. You could also spot something in yourself that is similar to what you’re seeing in the other. That might be cool with you and allow to give yourself some praise. Or it could be something you don’t care for. Seeing that, you can do something to change it in yourself.
Every moment life is offering us messages. By paying attention to others, by being present with them, you continue to practice present moment awareness. And in so doing, hear the guidance that’s always there.
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April 3, 2013 at 2:20 pm
Mary Ann Coelho
Hi Alexandria, You and I were beanie buddies remember? I wanted to let you know I still think of our great time we had in Sark’s on line seminar a few years ago. I love your posts and thank you for the “Honoring Others” post that I just read. It is truly something we need to think about every time we are in the presence of someone else every day…….It is especially hard when that someone can be a family member who can set off triggers, but again they too are usually dealing with some bigger issues. I try to remember this when I find myself caught up in their stuff and ask my Higher Power what and how do I deal with this. Thanks again. Mary Ann, The Metta Cottage
April 3, 2013 at 2:30 pm
Alexandra Coulter
Hi Mary Ann!
Of course I remember you. That was a memorable seminar. Thank you for continuing to read my Blog and commenting. Yes, people who are close to you can be the most challenging. But they make a good place to practice! I hope all is well with you. We should keep in better touch. You’ll be hearing from me.
A.