Let it Be

“As you recognize your wholeness and worth, dysfunctional situations evaporate like bad dreams exposed to the sun.”  – Alan Cohen

Alan Cohen is a very wise man and a powerful writer.  Which is why, even with others interspersing, there is so much great material from him to fill his Daily Inspirations.

This one intrigued me.  Is it possible for that to happen so easily?  My Midwestern work ethic balks, it can’t possibly disappear that smoothly. But wait a minute. How easy is it to wake from a bad dream in the sunlight?  Perhaps it’s a bit unsettling, maybe jarring.  It is clearly a transition.

My growth into recognizing my wholeness and worth has been gradual.  But I’ve noticed dysfunctional situations either slipping out of my gaps like a live fish, or urging me to let go like an impatient child who isn’t entirely sure what she wants, but certain this is not it.

I’m struggling to change a few dysfunctional situations in my life right now.  But I’m finding that if I just allow them to run their course, they will.  Bashar said, “Dysfunctional systems will fall under their own weight.  Let them.”  I don’t have to push so hard, or worry so much. Nor must I go through such machinations.

Sure, I need to take steps, but the idea is to not be so stuck on the outcome of those steps.  Take one, take another.  Keep putting one foot in front of the other, but let it be and watch the dysfunctional situations fall of their own accord.

Dealing With an Upset in 2 Ways

When you get upset, you might move through these steps:

First you think it through, really look at and decide what happened.

In that process, you find a place of love for the person or situation.  You accept it.

Then, you let go of the outcome, release all the past and future concerns, dealing with just this incident.  Re-framing and shifting to the positive thoughts about it.

After that, you tend to your needs.  Discover what you need and get it.

The goal is to get back on your feet as soon as possible. So you can continue to love and serve others.
   
Makes sense.  Sounds logical. 

But, what if it went the other way around?  (If I checked, it might well have come out in this order in the first place.  It was my call to rearrange it.)

What if the first thing you do is tend to your needs?  If a child has been hurt, you put medicine on the cut and bandage it up.  Discover where it hurts. Identify and feel your feelings.

After that, you tell a different story, letting go of all the scary outcomes, reassuring the child.

In that release, in that safe place, you can find your way to love and acceptance for what has happened and for whatever or whomever harmed you.

Finally, you are clear to think it through and decide how to proceed from there to avoid the upset next time. You may need to make amends.  Do whatever needs to be done to keep the skates off the driveway, the obstacles from tripping you up.

This helps you to bounce back faster and stronger, so you can keep loving and serving all of us!