Right or Wrong

What do you do when you come to a stage in your evolution when you know that nothing is inherently right or wrong?  How, then, do you choose?

As usual, it comes down to how you feel. This is the time to get quiet and look inside for the answer. The tricky piece is – extending the injustice discussion – to find a place to stand where you can love that which you do Not choose.

It is only from that place where a good choice can be activated.  It’s highly unlikely that you will change anyone’s mind or direction by arguing and stressing what you think is Right simply by choosing a different way. When you demand that your choice is the right one, it only makes the other side stand up stronger for their way.

I have found that most people believe  their choices are Right. They may have even checked their feelings and told the truth about what they see, just like I did.  There’s no guarantee that my choice is really right. The “wrong” side is just as sure and committed as I am. So, an adversarial stance is not the most effective place from which to make your choice.

The more evolved way is to make that choice from a place of love for what you don’t choose. To understand the other’s side, knowing it is not inherently wrong, it is just not what you choose in the moment. Tomorrow, you may decide to make another choice.

When you choose in this way, you can begin to meld with the choice you don’t make, and be closer to what the Buddha called, The Middle Way. With enough practice, right and wrong can begin to fade and disappear. Then, you make your choices in the moment, not having to stop to name one choice “right” and one choice “wrong.”

The Injustice of It All

I  get annoyed at injustices.  When people don’t treat me or others the way I think they should, my blood starts to boil!

Well, let’s see, we’ve got expectations going on. The fact is, I am expecting people to act a certain way. It’s also a “should” staring me right in the face.

There kind of can’t be any universal justice because what’s “righteous” for me, may not be for you.  But, I guess we need to come up with some laws or agreements on what’s right and what’s wrong in our society.  If we were more evolved, though, I don’t think we would need to fuss about such things.  We’d all just treat each other equally.

So, the point is not whether or not the Justice system is valid.  Instead the issue is if I am wise to judge an act wrong, much less expect that people or situations must be a certain way.  Does it make sense for me to get upset about what I see as an injustice, if there’s nothing I can do about it?

Maybe it’s about what my part is. Perhaps I get angry, go that far, because I feel guilty that I’m not doing anything to change the situation. Who am I to judge the behavior as “wrong,” if I’m just sitting back and letting it happen?

I must be entitled to my opinion about it, though.  Don’t you think?  Aren’t I free to say this is something I find objectionable?  No, no, no.  It’s about seeing the beauty in everything, rather than judging it.  I can still tell the truth about what’s going on.  Somebody has to.  But I need not judge it before I can decide how I wish to be in relationship to it.   Just tell the truth as I see it.

So, first I need to stop judging that something is wrong.  It isn’t absolutely right or wrong, it just is. If I accept it, just as it is, I am still able to see the injustice.  I don’t have to get so angry and frustrated. The anger is only useful to get me fired up enough to do something about it.   But in that state, not carried away by my anger, I can see better ways to solve the problem.  Or, I can make a decision to let it go.