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Everyone’s talking about it.  It is the backbone of the Law of Attraction.

It’s a theory that says if you can act like it’s already happening –  already in your life, you are already the person you choose to be – you create a better conduit, set up better causes and conditions for it to manifest.

Susan Jeffers explains how it works, in her book Embracing Uncertainty. “If you act-as-if long enough, your mind lets in the possibility that something is so. And, ultimately, you are able to embrace the reality that it is so.”

I’ve recently been introduced to “Ted Talks.”  I listened to a brilliant talk by Amy Cuddy called, “Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are.” She is an expert on hormones and has done extensive study on body language and how the movement and placement of your body can greatly effect your mood and your life.

She spoke about “Faking it until you make it.” Her theory was that some people feel like a fraud doing this.  Her turn of the phrase adds an intention to “Fake it until you Become it.”  If you are striving to become something, it is not being a fake.  And that is really the heart of Acting as If.  Not to fool anyone – least of all yourself – but to practice until you become it.

Many spiritual practices and teachers, including the Buddha, tell us that which we want is always waiting for us to just see it.

The great writer and teacher, Dorothea Brande said, “All that is necessary to break the spell of inertia and frustration is this: Act as if it were impossible to fail. That is the talisman, the formula, the command of right about face which turns us from failure to success.”

Even C.S. Lewis had something to say about it. “The rule for us all is perfectly simple. Do not waste time bothering whether you love your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him.”

I believe it was Caroline Myss who said that money is a substance that faith attracts.  Believing the money will be there, acting as if it is,  is a strong indicator that it will be.  Why the rich tend to get richer and the poor stay the same.

It all adds up to the Conversations With God teaching about how most people say, “Well if I had this, I could be that and then I could do what I need to do.”  But what if we change that up and call it Do Be Have?  If we do it first, if we act as if it’s here already, fake it until we make it, we will Become it and then we will have it.  It’s not hard to believe that could greatly speed up the manifesting process.

Susan Jeffers wondered what we could accomplish if we acted as if we truly made a difference in this world.  Can you imagine?

Embracing Uncertainty” is a wonderful book by Susan Jeffers, PhD.  This woman made a lifetime study of fear.  “Embracing Uncertainly” teaches us how to let go of our fears, handle, deal with, wrangle the fears.  I like the vision of loading up the backpack with your fears and moving ahead with them, if you must.  As in, “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway,” Dr. Jeffers’ landmark book. The title that became a cheer.  Pack em up and keep on trucking.

It’s so easy though to get attached to our fears, to be driven by them.  Making it sometimes hard to get out of it’s hold. I have a dear friend who is negative about just everything.  His name could be Yes But.  Nothing is ever good enough, nothing can ever work for him. That’s just the way it is.  And he lives his life, hoping against hope that his worst fears won’t come true, again.  He doesn’t know what will happen in the future, but his best guess is that it’s not going to work for him. He’s not alone.  I know many people, including myself at times, who are poised and ready to tell you (and themselves) all the reasons why not.

Is it about risk?  What am I willing to risk to have what I want?  I have been known to over dramatize the possibility of risk.  Be careful, I tell myself.  It’s wise to be prepared for the worst.

But does this keep me focused, then, on the things that can go wrong?  It seems so easy for us to come up with disaster scenarios.  Why can’t we prepare for the positive possibility?  Better still, find that Middle Way to accept and embrace the uncertainty of what is to come.  “What will happen to me today?” has a much better ring than “What disaster might befall me today?”  When we embrace the uncertainty we ask the kind of questions Susan points out from “A Course in Miracles” such as,  What will you have me do today?  Where will you have me go?

Even if we’re going to work as always, we can be open to where our hearts and minds are.  Not just accept, but reach out for the unknowable, embrace the fear and move with it.

As I continue to read Susan Jeffers’ Embracing Uncertainty, I’ve come across another interesting concept: Maybe.

Maybe it will snow.  Maybe I’m right and maybe I’m wrong.  This thing I’m expecting will happen . . . or maybe it won’t.

The idea is to not be so caught up in certainty.  Kick back, put your feet up and allow it to happen.  Maybe it will, unless it doesn’t.

I believe a big part of this for Susan was about being right.  How rigid it is to be certain about everything!  Not embracing at all.  How much easier it feels to say, “Maybe,” instead of “I’m sure!”

I’m not a person who thinks she’s always right.  But I’ve been noticing lately how certain I am that . . . a person is going to behave a certain way, for instance.  I’m positive and confident I’ll get what I’m after.  Even sure I’ll complete something.  But life has a way of not always coming out the way I’m certain it will.  Weather, especially, can stick its tongue out at my certainty and say, “Maybe I’ll come your way and maybe I won’t!”

This all-knowing attitude sets me up for disappointment. What if the maybe happens, instead? It’s a lot softer to say, “Maybe this person will do what he always does,” or ”I’ll get what I want, unless I don’t,” “I’ll finish that project, when and if I do.”  That’s being cool.  It takes the pressure off.  I don’t have to make sure everything plays out the way I think it should.  Not my job.

I can go about my business, doing what I think I need to be doing.  But whatever happens, happens. Maybe it will turn out the way I want it to, maybe it won’t.  Either way, I’m going to be fine.  I can just lay back and watch the show!

Wonder is like curiosity.  It’s one of those things that everyone – as long as the brain is fairly normal – has the capacity to wonder or be curious.  Wherever you are, you need no tools. Whatever you’re doing, you don’t even need your hands.  It’s all right there, awaiting your call.

Susan Jeffers, in Embracing Uncertainty, talks about adopting an attitude of wonder.  It  takes the angst right out of “I hope,” “I want,” even “I wish.”  It helps you to be comfortable with not knowing.  And how many of us really know everything, anyway?

“I wonder if he’ll show up,” feels so much easier than, “I hope he’ll show up.”  That seems like you’re begging him to arrive. Wondering is just sitting there imagining. “I wonder if I’ll get the call I want,” even lessons the weight of it.

I want a new job.  I choose to get a new job.  I wish I had a new job (getting closer).  But “I wonder what my new job will be,” transforms it into an adventure, a game, a joyful activity.  Now I’m looking delightedly, with a lighter heart. That lightness might well be just what I need to open to the flow of it. To make the space for it to come into my life.

When I say, “I hope” it creates something out there that has to happen.  I’ve put qualifications on what it must be.  Instead I could be moving fully forward, with arms outstretched, ears tuned, eyes searching for whatever it may be.  “I wonder if this is what I’ve been looking for?” opens a much wider Universe for bringing me what I’ve chosen

Using wonder helps to feel a different way, see a new perspective and therefore travel more lightly, without the excess heaviness of wait and doubt.

“I hope I get a new phone.” – is pleading for life to bring you the phone.
“I wish I had that phone.” – gives you some more information but still has you reaching for it.
“I choose that phone.” – is more proactive.
But then you have to let go of even that.  No restrictions.  Though you may know your intention, the essences of what you’re after, without all those qualifications, you can allow so many more things to satisfy your wish.

So just wonder.  Now that you’ve sketched out what you’d like – you toss it into the hands of wonder and proceed.  Paying attention in the present moment for the answers, the ideas, the ways and means.

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