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1) Make a Choice to Do It.  
Setting the Intention and putting some enthusiasm behind it is the best way to get going.

2) Plan Wisely.
Be sure to know how I’m going to do it.  Don’t overload.  Consider how I’m feeling and what else I need to do.  What will my overall energy requirements be?  Find a good time to do it.  And know the steps I’m going to take.

3) Know  the Reasons I Want to Do It.
This will increase my enthusiasm and seal my commitment if the going gets rough.

4) Accept That it May Not Get Done the Way I Picture It.
Doing what I say I’m going to do,
Has nothing to do with when.
Not being able to do it now (or when I planned),
Doesn’t negate doing it at another time.
Simply say when I will try again and stick to it.

5) Check to See if There’s an Easier Way.
I increase my chances of doing it if I make time to find the quickest route.

6)  Get Into the Good Feelings.
Remember how wonderful it feels to do what I said I would do, to follow through on my promises.  How about that feeling of  crossing it off the list, knowing I did it!

7) Remember the Steps for Goal Getting.
First is knowing what you want to do.
Second is figuring out what it will take to get it.
But nothing gets done unless you Take the Steps.

8) Stop to Appreciate the Accomplishment.
It’s so easy to jump into the next thing.  If I make sure to appreciate the accomplishment, I strengthen my will muscle and my commitment for the next goal.

1)  Set an Intention.

You won’t get anywhere without a destination.  Be very clear on what you want to do.  Fill in some details.  Make sure you’ll know when you get there. Without an intention, you’ll just be wandering about.  You need your Guiding Light to help you see the way when the going gets dark.

2)  Plan Wisely.

Choose action steps that are fun if you can.  The lighter they are, the easier they will be to do.  Make them small steps so you don’t give yourself too much to do and overwhelm yourself.  That’s a fine way to stop your plan before it’s even begun. Take into account your energy levels and what you might have coming up in the near future. Some activities may get in the way of your progress.  Plan for them and then they’ll be little more than a detour.

3)  Watch for Procrastination.

When you find yourself not doing it, make yourself give a clear reason why you’re not.  It might be that this is just not a good time.  Just because you are too tired or busy to do it now, doesn’t negate doing it at another time.  See if you can find out what’s stopping you.  Remember that resistance could be hiding fear. Be as specific as you can.  Listen to your thoughts.  Why aren’t you doing what you said you’d do?  Be honest. It’ll pay off.

4)  Take the Necessary Steps to Make it Easier.

Find better ways to do things, adjust your steps to make them smaller or more fun.  Discover more opportune times. Get the information you need. Address the issue(s) pinned down in 3).

5)  Decide to Follow Through.

There are many methods for this:  list the reasons and read them frequently.  Use the buddy system to hold you accountable.  Keep track of your progress.  See it as promise to yourself.  There are many ways to make sure you keep going.  Deciding is certainly an important part.  Reiterating your intentions, reminding yourself why you’re doing it.

6)  Just Do It.

Sometimes you just have to take the leap.  Even if you don’t feel like it, aren’t sure, need one more thing . . .  If you don’t take a step, you may never get there.  Sometimes the smallest thing can get you going again.  Inertia is powerful magic.

7)  Appreciate.

Please, make sure to congratulate yourself when you do something.  As often as you can, remember to appreciate what you do. Spend more time and effort on that than on what you didn’t do.

Goal Getting is defined (I think by Chellie Campbell) as such:

Step 1:  Knowing what you want.

Step 2:  Investigating what it will take to have it.

Step 3:  Taking the steps to have it.

 Simple when you see it that way!

It seems everywhere I turn these days, people are talking about relationships.  Books, seminars, lectures, and even classes on how to have better relationships.  Maybe I’ve been especially blessed as I’ve always had lots of relationships and feel fairly contented (at least at the moment) with my significant other.

I just don’t think it’s that tricky.  Relationships are what your life is all about.  The relationship you have with the people, places and things around you, defines who you are.  Every relationship is there to help you wake up and learn something new about yourself.  Everyone is your “Zen Master” as my teacher, Paulette Terrels says. 

So, why do people carry on so about them? Does it say something about our culture that people are so dissatisfied with the relationships in their lives? Or feel so separated and alone?  Can I say all my relationships are perfect?  That I wouldn’t want to tweak a few them?  Of course not.  But I try to use them all as a flashlight to illuminate things I need to learn and experience.

We are social beings and tend to congregate.  If there’s no one in your life, it’s probably because you’re not letting them in.

Here are my humble ways to have good relationships:

1)  Be more conscious in your relationships.  Know that you make a statement about who you are by how you relate to everything in your life.  Pay attention and take steps which reflect how you wish to relate, how you wish to be in relationship to whoever or whatever it is.

2)  Let go of expectations.  People are not put here to live up to your expectations and behave just the way you want them to. It’s a practice in peace to allow others to be who they are. It is also the greatest gift you can give them.

3)  Remember very few of us are mind readers.  Frankly, we’ve all got way too much chatter going on in our heads to allow in someone else’s.  If you don’t tell someone what you need or want, how are they supposed to know?  Be sure to let go of your expectations when you do, though.  Just because you ask, doesn’t mean they can deliver. But you’re surely not going to get what you want by being quiet and hoping the other will just know.

One of my favorite episodes of the old Dick Van Dyke show (from the 60’s) begins with Rob and Laura in the car, coming home one night.  Laura is obviously angry at Rob, but he doesn’t have a clue why.  He recounts the entire evening in flashbacks, trying to find the place where he messed up. They went to the theater with friends and then went for coffee and met some other friends. At the end of the evening, Rob picks up the check and we see that is what has gotten Laura’s panties in a twist.  She thinks he doesn’t love their 8 year old son.  Huh? Why would she think that? Finally she admits, she thinks Rob has jeopardized their son’s college education by  picking up the tab for everyone’s dinner when all the two of them had was dessert. I remember that scene when I am thinking someone should know what I want: Laura spent a lot of time feeling angry when all she had to do was tell him!  “If you don’t know, I’m not going to tell you,” is a lame excuse and causes far more problems than just saying it. If he had known she felt that way, he wouldn’t have picked up the check to begin with.

4)  Allow your relationships to come and go.  What is the saying that people are in your life for a moment, a season or a lifetime.  When it’s time for a person to leave your life, let them go – whether that’s to college, another plane of existence, across town, or the next love. We cannot hold people with us.  It is the nature of relationships to change.

5)  Appreciate the relationships you have.  There is something to be found in every relationship. I’m in a position right now where I come in contact with a lot of people.  Each one of them offers me something different.  Each one is a gift in my life. Notice how even the smallest relationship – like the person behind the counter at the library – can make your day.

6)  Define the kind of people you want in your life and watch for them. SARK talks about “building platforms of support.”  If you want a strong system to hold you up in your life, order up a platform of support. Who are the kind of people that will bring to your life what you need?  Then just be on the lookout for them.

7)  Open to relationships.  Don’t be so picky about it.  Know that you can learn, grow and have fun with just about anyone. Open your heart to others and they will open theirs to you.


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